For many people, dealing with the death of a loved one, a family member or a friend is a hard thing to do. As painful as it is, it does not end there. After a family member’s death, there are still many things that must be dealt with. A funeral must take place and the family members must try to endure the loss they experienced.
After the funeral ceremony, the body is buried and left in the soil to eventually decay. That is the traditional way of burying the dead but nowadays, especially in the west, cremation has become a popular choice.
What Is Cremation Anyway?
So, what is cremation? It is a process where the body of a dead person is put in a big chamber (also known as a crematory) and heated until only ashes remain. In this process, the body is reduced into fragments of bone and its basic composition elements. The temperature in a crematory may range from 1400 to 2000 degrees Fahrenheit and the total time for cremation may take about one to three hours. Once the process is done, the crematory is cooled off and the remains are taken. Metals and other substances left behind are taken and disposed of and the bones are ground by a machine (also called cremulator) and then given to the family members.
What Remains In A Cremated Body?
When a body undergoes cremation the body is reduced back to its basic elements and what remains are only ashes and other substances like hinges, nails, screws (casket parts), prosthetics, implants and pieces of dental work that were left behind. These things are removed by using forceps and/or magnets and the bone fragments become a white powdery substance.
Where Do You Put A Cremated Body?
A cremated body may be put in an urn or in any container of the family’s choice. This urn may be kept by the family or may be buried in the ground in the traditional way. This choice is for the family to make. Some people want to keep the ashes of their loved ones close by. This helps them feel that the person they lost is still with them even in death. This will also be good choice if you want to preserve your ancestors’ ashes and keep them as a remembrance or as a legacy. By having an urn, you have your loved ones close by and you will have the time to pray for them and pay them respects.
The urn may also be buried in the ground just like any other body, if that is the wish of the family or the person who passed away. Also, you can scatter the remains of the person in his/her favorite place – a place where he/she is deeply attached. Whatever your choice is, you must remember that you must treat with respect the remains and always keep it in a safe and solemn place.
Recovery from the loss of a loved one may be hard, especially for children, since the idea of life and death may still be too complex for them. Having the deceased family member remain close with you may help with your recovery from the tragic experience. This will not always work for everyone. Some people intentionally bury their dead and not keep them close to forget about the painful event. If however, you feel more comfortable with the ashes of your loved one with you, then you may do as you please. If it will help with the recovery and help you carry on with your everyday life normally, then keeping the urn with you might just be a good idea.